The drop down you’re seeing are only xmp-presets that are available for each kit. Not what they are running at.
What you’re seeing above the drop downs are the actual timings and speed.
Could be that you are running 2 kits at which aren’t the same. Just running 2 kits can be unstable. Running 2 kits with different specs are prone to be even more unstable.
As I’ve never experimented with 2kits/4sticks myself, only read about other people’s struggle I’d recommend you turn to reddit r/overclocking perhaps and ask for help about how to get your ram stable.
Edit* Imo, seeing as RAM is the cheapest and easiest to replace. I’d first test your ram kit with the highest storage. Read the manual for the motherboard which two slots in prioritizes and place them in those two. Then enter bios and set the xmp-profile with the highest MHz and lowest CL. You might not even need 80Gb if they run at lower latency and highest speeds as they will handle what ever data is sent by the cpu a lot faster, thus not taking up as much ram and doesnt have to offload as much to the page file.
Can also look into things like where Windows has allocated the memory page file. If left up to windows to decid, I’ve seen cases where it’s moved the page file to an HDD due to space on ssd only having some 40Gb left. That will 100% cause crashes.
To check page file you can right click start menu → System → Advanced System settings → Advanced tab → Performance → settings > Advanced → Virtual Memory → change
This should show where your pagefile is located and how much is currently in use.
Here are my ram-timings:

Some values are not showing on mine vs yours, and vice versa since some of the timings have to do with communication between 2x kits.
Your one kit might be set to 5600Mhz, and the other to 4000Mhz. However, this will default to both running at the lowest, which is 4000Mhz. Having MCLK=UCLK is also preferred, but MCLK=UCLK/2 should also work fine to my knowledge, which is what you have now.
Edit 2* How long does it manage to process before it crashes?
Currently testing Prot Auto, no upscale, Stabilization - Auto Crop and Motion Deblur of a 13min 4k video which has previously been enhanced with artemis + chronos interpolation to 59.94fps.
It does the stabilization first. Then prot + motion deblur.
Here are my specs and benchmarks for reference:
Topaz Video AI v5.5.0
System Information
OS: Windows v11.23
CPU: AMD Ryzen 7 7800X3D 8-Core Processor 31.604 GB
GPU: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3080 9.8174 GB
Processing Settings
device: -2 vram: 1 instances: 1
Input Resolution: 1920x1080
Benchmark Results
Artemis 1X: 20.40 fps 2X: 13.85 fps 4X: 04.55 fps
Iris 1X: 19.35 fps 2X: 12.37 fps 4X: 03.74 fps
Proteus 1X: 19.34 fps 2X: 13.52 fps 4X: 04.99 fps
Gaia 1X: 06.55 fps 2X: 04.59 fps 4X: 03.11 fps
Nyx 1X: 08.40 fps 2X: 06.90 fps
Nyx Fast 1X: 16.24 fps
Rhea 4X: 02.69 fps
4X Slowmo Apollo: 23.90 fps APFast: 62.48 fps Chronos: 14.57 fps CHFast: 23.82 fps
16X Slowmo Aion: 33.05 fps